Marion Somers, Ph.D. (Doctor Marion) is an award-winning, nationally recognized geriatric care manager who has provided care for more than 2,000 elderly clients. Her unique methodology has made her a renowned and respected visionary leader in elder care.
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Helping My Father
I’m finding my father in is bedroom for several weeks with his head in his hands just rocking. He tells me everything is fine, but is afraid to go to sleep. His health is not the best. I tried to take him to the emergency room last night, but he refused. I know his health is not the best, but I would really like to get him to a doctor and find out for myself, but he refuses. How do I get him to understand and get him to a doctor. He’s in is early 60′s and he lost his brother about 2 yrs ago to cancer. I’m at my wits end and want to help him. Help!
Thank you for writing regarding your father. At a time like this, you need to discuss with your father how all of this is affecting you. Open communication will help him understand that you are also involved in this situation. Your father may have many fears and concerns that he finds hard to articulate, both to you and himself. If you truly think that his health is compromised, ask him if he would consider having a doctor visit in his home, or tell him that you will go with him to the doctor’s appointment. Just knowing he isn’t alone and realizing that he has options will help your father.